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Why are you here??  

Ellasboudoir 59F
1064 posts
5/25/2021 7:10 pm
Why are you here??


Good Evening my fellow playmates,

It seems a lot of people are on this site but why? Is it truly meet others or is it just banter with others about sex and their kinks? Is it blogging? Is it for the erotic stories? Is it the webcams? Naked pictures of others??

What is it? Why are you here?

There are other sites where you can a fee and see the same person naked over and over. Is that appealing?

Would men have a virtual GF? Maybe a man is in a loveless/sexless marriage and just wants someone talk or have virtual sex with.

There are plenty of other sites where you can do that so why are you here??

Curious Ella wants know.

69ereatwetpussy 61M
6774 posts
5/25/2021 7:22 pm

all the above
as a stander member I can chat for free
meet new people for free
and pass the time away.


NJGUY08090 57M
4306 posts
5/25/2021 7:40 pm

I've been here for a good number of years and I've made a few friends that I enjoy chatting with and reading their blogs. The covid thing has pretty much killed meeting up right now.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
5/25/2021 7:47 pm

To find a female sex (and perhaps other things) partner. I blog (read, respond and write) to keep me coming to the site.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


HAMONMAN 64M
13128 posts
5/25/2021 7:47 pm

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    all the above
    as a stander member I can chat for free
    meet new people for free
    and pass the time away.
how are you able to chat for free ?


peladodel56 67M
10340 posts
5/25/2021 8:16 pm

Participo en el blog y me entretengo haciendo algunas amistades virtuales sin muchas expectativas de sexo por las distancias. Saludos


samboismtl514 40M

5/25/2021 8:40 pm

Too explore new experiences


Mark61Smith 63M

5/25/2021 8:49 pm

The better question is, Why are you here? Most of these narcissistic fools just can't get enough of showing disgusting body parts. Like another blogger said, "I don't know what that man looks like because most men don't run around with their dicks hanging out!" When I was stationed in Germany I went walked through the red light areas looking a hookers through glass windows. That is what this is A glass window.


hardguy0051 72M
503 posts
5/25/2021 9:06 pm

I thought we all had the same objective:

To get laid, and

If it's good, to get laid on a regular basis.

Did I miss a memo or something?


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
5/25/2021 9:26 pm

To Find someone to write home about?

Using more than all the road!


Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
5/26/2021 12:35 am

    Quoting hardguy0051:
    I thought we all had the same objective:

    To get laid, and

    If it's good, to get laid on a regular basis.

    Did I miss a memo or something?
That is only one purpose of this site. Just because you think it's only for sex doesn't make it so. The site itself has a list of reasons. Sex is not the only one.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
5/26/2021 1:22 am

I like the diversity of the site...the rooms the groups the IM the blogs etc. Havent been able to find that on other sites. Many places to roam and wander here. As we are all different we are all here for diff reasons. I would love to find someone to explore the next chapter of life with that is not soley based on physical interactions. Just one person is ideal....but as ive said...ideal is hard to come by ~~


MyBaffies 54M
4983 posts
5/26/2021 1:54 am

Been here on and off for over 18 years in various guises. At first it was a self-confidence thing - although I had low expectations of the site, it was easier on me to get rejected through a PC screen than it was in real life.

Now with the vast majority of people having left the site and little in the way of new members replacing them, I just use it to pass some time on the blogs or in the chat rooms.

However, I have made a couple of friends (ones I have met and ones I have never met) over the years.

Baffies

Link to my blog: MyBaffies


nsnguystill 71M
428 posts
5/26/2021 1:56 am

i came for the game
the game was lame
i stayed for the challenge
it turned out to be the wrong game

there is a world of difference between insane and stupid


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
5/26/2021 2:30 am

I used to be here for the 'all you can eat' buffet over on the second floor. But now that IT'S closed for renovations... I don't really know.
It can't be the free coffee ☕ ; that sucks! 🤔


bulehyatt 65M
1717 posts
5/26/2021 2:53 am

To make long-lasting friendships of the sort involving comfortable conversation and abundant laughter while discussing interesting topics.

Ideally, the friendship involves my female friend sharing her pussy with me on a regular basis. That's the best case and I have been fortunate to have that happen multiple times here.

I also have made long-lasting friendships with women who decline to offer me a taste of their pussy - generally because I am happily married, already. I still treasure those friendships.

What I learned through several early mistakes - my fault, for sure - was that it is relatively easy to find a partner for sex on this site. But that progressing too quickly to being naked on a bed together turns out to be seriously awkward after the deed is done, when we realize that we have very little conversational compatibility.

I suppose that's sort of the dynamic for one-time hookups with random strangers that some people actively seek. That has no/minimal appeal for me though.

Given a choice between friendship and pussy - one but not the other - I will choose friendship every time. If all I wanted was pussy, then I would rent the body of one of the many, many women who do that for their work.

That's a valuable service and bless every one of those women who provide it. But that isn't something I seek or wish for.

Ideally, no need to make a choice. Friendship including pussy is the gold-standard.


Ellasboudoir replies on 5/27/2021 5:08 pm:
Thank you for the email. I respect that. You seem like a very intelligent thoughtful man. She is a lucky lady.

DiscreetQuirky 55M  
280 posts
5/26/2021 3:10 am

I would like to meet a friend, but the blogs and stuff are amusing meanwhile.


1bighammer1000 58M
4304 posts
5/26/2021 4:23 am

I enjoy the blogs, I use to go to the local chat room then that sort of started slowing down. As far as meeting anyone from this site, I was a gold member for a year, and met one person out of that deal. Had several others agree to meet but every other one would cancel a few hours before the time, or just not show up. Anyhow, I like the blogs, they cause me to think a little and keeps my brain busy. Ha ha

Anything worth doing is worth doing right


CleavageFan4U 66M
69374 posts
5/26/2021 6:16 am

Have no doubt about it. I'm here to meet and have sex with women. I chose to do this via the internet as it is more efficient than the older way of meeting them in bars, etc. I chose this site specifically since it seems to be the largest one with a more sexual focus (or opposed to the other "dating" sites).

Soon after I came here a local lady pointed out to me that the blogs were where the fun, smart, and sexy women tended to be, so that has been my preferred venue for over then years now, and I will admit I've done fairly well.

Outtakes, on HNW
Ive Got a Question And a Bit of a RANT
Every Girls Crazy About a Sharp Dressed Man
[post 3312759] My Private Post - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets – Anything you write here is just between us


cyclingfool 62M  
6666 posts
5/26/2021 6:47 am

Hmmmm, great question.
I've been here for a very long time. It started as seeking a partner, but hat I'd have some insight to what they were like sexually. As time went on I was dating someone from real life and it became online entertainment. Surfing, cams, camming myself.
Then there were single times when I was searching again., blogging and sharing thoughts, seeking the thoughts of others.
Then I traveled a bit for work, so I used it to meet people, mostly women, but a few couples, even just for drinks. I did make some true friends and had a few brief, yet very meaningful encounters with beautiful and lovely women that I still stay in touch with.
I'm in a relationship again that is yet completely defined, but a committed relationship none the less. So I guess I'm back to the online entertainment and sharing thoughts.
I stayed away for a while a few years ago, but I always seem to fid my way back.


magictonguesc13 55M
56 posts
5/26/2021 7:24 am

I'm on here to mostly meet people in my area that share my desire for sex. I've met a few people over the years and always enjoyed it. (there are some creeps and others that "talk the talk" but were no shows).
I do also like to go on live camera on the website from time to time - I guess that's the exhibitionist in me!!!


hardguy0051 72M
503 posts
5/26/2021 9:34 am

    Quoting Brownie202:
    That is only one purpose of this site. Just because you think it's only for sex doesn't make it so. The site itself has a list of reasons. Sex is not the only one.
There are many dating sites, chatting sites, camming sites, and blogging sites. What sets A.F.F. apart is its stated purpose-- get users laid.


MrRareity 64M  
4589 posts
5/26/2021 1:14 pm

Who knows maybe I will find that one woman that we have things in common with and develop a relationship. Have you seen the cams? If you're a man they are a joke. I do enjoy reading the blogs such as yours. A virtual GF that does make me laugh. To find friendship with others yes but over time I've learned not to expect much from the site. What are the sites you are talking about? So curious John wants to know why Ella is here.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:42 pm

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    all the above
    as a stander member I can chat for free
    meet new people for free
    and pass the time away.
Perfect sounds about right.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:43 pm

    Quoting NJGUY08090:
    I've been here for a good number of years and I've made a few friends that I enjoy chatting with and reading their blogs. The covid thing has pretty much killed meeting up right now.
Soooooo true...


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:44 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    To find a female sex (and perhaps other things) partner. I blog (read, respond and write) to keep me coming to the site.
Understood. I guess I know people are here to find a sex partner but does it work more often or not??


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:44 pm

    Quoting HAMONMAN:
    how are you able to chat for free ?


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:44 pm

    Quoting peladodel56:
    Participo en el blog y me entretengo haciendo algunas amistades virtuales sin muchas expectativas de sexo por las distancias. Saludos
I have no idea what you said but okay.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:45 pm

Perfect.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:45 pm

    Quoting Mark61Smith:
    The better question is, Why are you here? Most of these narcissistic fools just can't get enough of showing disgusting body parts. Like another blogger said, "I don't know what that man looks like because most men don't run around with their dicks hanging out!" When I was stationed in Germany I went walked through the red light areas looking a hookers through glass windows. That is what this is A glass window.
As I have stated in other places on this site I am here to blog.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:47 pm

    Quoting hardguy0051:
    I thought we all had the same objective:

    To get laid, and

    If it's good, to get laid on a regular basis.

    Did I miss a memo or something?
Well not everyone is here to "get laid" some of us are here to blog, read erotic stories, and meet new people with the same kinks so we can see how they explore their fantasies.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:47 pm

    Quoting s2ndegree:
    To Find someone to write home about?
AAAhhh I love that answer.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:49 pm

    Quoting Brownie202:
    That is only one purpose of this site. Just because you think it's only for sex doesn't make it so. The site itself has a list of reasons. Sex is not the only one.
AGREED 1000% I am here to blog and find like minded people to chat with about their kinks. I am so curious about other people's sex lives.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:49 pm

    Quoting  :

Love your honesty.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:50 pm

    Quoting jajo696:
    I like the diversity of the site...the rooms the groups the IM the blogs etc. Havent been able to find that on other sites. Many places to roam and wander here. As we are all different we are all here for diff reasons. I would love to find someone to explore the next chapter of life with that is not soley based on physical interactions. Just one person is ideal....but as ive said...ideal is hard to come by ~~
Agree lots of things to explore.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:51 pm

    Quoting MyBaffies:
    Been here on and off for over 18 years in various guises. At first it was a self-confidence thing - although I had low expectations of the site, it was easier on me to get rejected through a PC screen than it was in real life.

    Now with the vast majority of people having left the site and little in the way of new members replacing them, I just use it to pass some time on the blogs or in the chat rooms.

    However, I have made a couple of friends (ones I have met and ones I have never met) over the years.
Understood and I would agree.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:51 pm

    Quoting nsnguystill:
    i came for the game
    the game was lame
    i stayed for the challenge
    it turned out to be the wrong game


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:52 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I used to be here for the 'all you can eat' buffet over on the second floor. But now that IT'S closed for renovations... I don't really know.
    It can't be the free coffee ☕ ; that sucks! 🤔


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:53 pm

    Quoting bulehyatt:
    To make long-lasting friendships of the sort involving comfortable conversation and abundant laughter while discussing interesting topics.

    Ideally, the friendship involves my female friend sharing her pussy with me on a regular basis. That's the best case and I have been fortunate to have that happen multiple times here.

    I also have made long-lasting friendships with women who decline to offer me a taste of their pussy - generally because I am happily married, already. I still treasure those friendships.

    What I learned through several early mistakes - my fault, for sure - was that it is relatively easy to find a partner for sex on this site. But that progressing too quickly to being naked on a bed together turns out to be seriously awkward after the deed is done, when we realize that we have very little conversational compatibility.

    I suppose that's sort of the dynamic for one-time hookups with random strangers that some people actively seek. That has no/minimal appeal for me though.

    Given a choice between friendship and pussy - one but not the other - I will choose friendship every time. If all I wanted was pussy, then I would rent the body of one of the many, many women who do that for their work.

    That's a valuable service and bless every one of those women who provide it. But that isn't something I seek or wish for.

    Ideally, no need to make a choice. Friendship including pussy is the gold-standard.
Okay I am curious...so you are married?? How does your wife feel about you being here if I may ask.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:53 pm

    Quoting DiscreetQuirky:
    I would like to meet a friend, but the blogs and stuff are amusing meanwhile.
Yes I agree.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:54 pm

    Quoting 1bighammer1000:
    I enjoy the blogs, I use to go to the local chat room then that sort of started slowing down. As far as meeting anyone from this site, I was a gold member for a year, and met one person out of that deal. Had several others agree to meet but every other one would cancel a few hours before the time, or just not show up. Anyhow, I like the blogs, they cause me to think a little and keeps my brain busy. Ha ha
Agree I love the blogs.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:54 pm

    Quoting CleavageFan4U:
    Have no doubt about it. I'm here to meet and have sex with women. I chose to do this via the internet as it is more efficient than the older way of meeting them in bars, etc. I chose this site specifically since it seems to be the largest one with a more sexual focus (or opposed to the other "dating" sites).

    Soon after I came here a local lady pointed out to me that the blogs were where the fun, smart, and sexy women tended to be, so that has been my preferred venue for over then years now, and I will admit I've done fairly well.

    Outtakes, on HNW
    Ive Got a Question And a Bit of a RANT
    Every Girls Crazy About a Sharp Dressed Man
    [post 3312759] My Private Post - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets – Anything you write here is just between us
Interesting and yes I think the blogs are the best.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:55 pm

    Quoting cyclingfool:
    Hmmmm, great question.
    I've been here for a very long time. It started as seeking a partner, but hat I'd have some insight to what they were like sexually. As time went on I was dating someone from real life and it became online entertainment. Surfing, cams, camming myself.
    Then there were single times when I was searching again., blogging and sharing thoughts, seeking the thoughts of others.
    Then I traveled a bit for work, so I used it to meet people, mostly women, but a few couples, even just for drinks. I did make some true friends and had a few brief, yet very meaningful encounters with beautiful and lovely women that I still stay in touch with.
    I'm in a relationship again that is yet completely defined, but a committed relationship none the less. So I guess I'm back to the online entertainment and sharing thoughts.
    I stayed away for a while a few years ago, but I always seem to fid my way back.
Very interesting and I understand this completely. I too have been here for the blogs off and on a few years.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/26/2021 2:56 pm

    Quoting magictonguesc13:
    I'm on here to mostly meet people in my area that share my desire for sex. I've met a few people over the years and always enjoyed it. (there are some creeps and others that "talk the talk" but were no shows).
    I do also like to go on live camera on the website from time to time - I guess that's the exhibitionist in me!!!
Makes sense.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
5/26/2021 4:55 pm

    Quoting Ellasboudoir:
    Understood. I guess I know people are here to find a sex partner but does it work more often or not??
Prior to turning 60 my "luck" here was pretty good. Especially considering I am in an area that has few female members. Now less so.

Also, it seems like the women here don't put much in their profiles to use as a cold opening. Also, I've been told they are perhaps a bit "PTSD" from all the offensive things they see and/or read here.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
5/26/2021 5:05 pm

    Quoting hardguy0051:
    I thought we all had the same objective:

    To get laid, and

    If it's good, to get laid on a regular basis.

    Did I miss a memo or something?
You bought into a marketing pitch if you believe that.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


staci_19702 53T
3767 posts
5/27/2021 10:08 am

Long time member. Have met a few people.
Am here for the banter and to stay in touch with a few friends.
Mainly here now as an outlet for posting pics.

Have a great day! 💋
Staci


Unzipmeslowly51 54M

5/27/2021 2:23 pm

Ive been here15+ yrs
At first it was.trying to get laid
Which i managed a few.times.And.playing on cam which i no longer do
Im here now.to.chat.flirt and.perv the sexy ladies pics. Also me.postimg pic.n stuff and getting.feedback on my pics n vids a turn on😊


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/27/2021 4:06 pm

    Quoting staci_19702:
    Long time member. Have met a few people.
    Am here for the banter and to stay in touch with a few friends.
    Mainly here now as an outlet for posting pics.
Well you are super sexy so thank you for posting pics.


Ellasboudoir 59F
526 posts
5/27/2021 4:07 pm

    Quoting Unzipmeslowly51:
    Ive been here15+ yrs
    At first it was.trying to get laid
    Which i managed a few.times.And.playing on cam which i no longer do
    Im here now.to.chat.flirt and.perv the sexy ladies pics. Also me.postimg pic.n stuff and getting.feedback on my pics n vids a turn on😊
And a very nice body you have from what I can see on your profile pic.


Unzipmeslowly51 54M

5/28/2021 3:37 pm

    Quoting Ellasboudoir:
    And a very nice body you have from what I can see on your profile pic.
Ty Ella very nice of you to say. Ive noticed yours also😊


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